On Being Alone

Did you panic coming across the word alone?

I'm not referring to your relationship status on Facebook, you know, the one you want to change when holiday season is here.

I'm referring to the instances where one is sitting in a dining area with billions of molecules of oxygen and carbon dioxide circulating through the air, and listening to Adele's One and Only... on repeat.

Yes, everyone reaches isolation at one point in life.
           - "only gets worse with age".
Yes, I would like to make more of an effort to reach out to friends.
           - "definitely."
Yes, my friends unanimously excluded me from their plans.
           - "...no comment..."
Yes, they had the audacity to post it online.
           - "they were stupid to think I would never find out."
Yes, maybe I should make new friends.
           - "what did Drake say? oh yeah, no new friends."
Or maybe I need to embrace the space I have and start creating my own memories.
           - "YES. Check. Double check."

Space is good though. By embracing our solitude, one can discover who we are without exterior influences. I'm certain you've had your fair share of fake laughter, cheesy smiles, awkward moments of silence, "quick let me pull out my phone" (sound like you?)
By allowing our solitude to engulf us whole, we become this great big blank sheet of paper. Like mama always said, don't be picky. But this time, we are able to hand select how we want to better our persona, what we want to become skilled at, and what we don't ever want to be.
It is in this moment that we become powerful.

Do You Ever...

Do you ever watch a television show and become attached to the characters because of the way they made you feel?

I have been watching Friends ever since I can remember, probably even back to when season 3 was starting. I still watch it to this day, and yes, the reruns are just as good as when they first aired on television. This may sound or seem absurd, but the characters and the show itself will always hold a very special place in my heart. Throughout the seasons the audience gets very personal glimpses of each character's life. Therefore, as a result, I got "attached" to where it felt like I was actually living in their sphere of shenanigans. Some episodes I would find myself rooting for Ross and Rachel, some days I hoped Joey would finally get his "big break" as an actor. Ultimately, I think, having been exposed to this show for so many years was also a contributing factor. Also, another contributing factor to becoming attached to this show was being exposed to what I did not have in reality. The majority of our inspirations are from external sources. It is not until we "re-make" those inspirations to make it our own accomplishment. So this show of six friends that, basically, lived together for ten years, allowed me to get that experience. I mean, what is not to love about six friends sharing a decade of fun, laughter, memories, and pure emotion.

(Yes, there were times where I wished I could have their life)  :




What are some of your favorite television shows? I have heard great things and lots of hype about Grey's Anatomy (for those of you who have watched it), so that is something to look forward to!


[note: all photos used in this post were located from search engines. The actual websites were not included, as they were unusually unfamiliar. My intention is to provide my readers with safe, trustworthy, reputable sources.]

BEGINNINGS

Scrolling down, you will notice a brief overview for the "purpose" of this blog. I tried to keep it concise, but what over-thinker keeps things concise? Without further adieu, I shall elaborate:

A couple years back (about five years ago) I started a blog. But back then I didn't exactly have a purpose; I did not know what I was blogging for. Every blog I read was my source of inspiration and in a similar sense I felt that I had to change my life routine in order to make the blog grow. I never intended to make full-fledged  "sacrifices" for a blog that may or may not have been successful.


One of the major things I enjoy reading in blogs is why it was first started. So here are a few reasons on my behalf:

#1 Sharing wishes and dreams is more fun when done together. I think a lot. Most often I don't have the opportunity to share anticipated life events such as weddings, relationships, trends, and womanly things because as simply as it sounds, life happens. To keep all these ideas to oneself can be overwhelming. Plus, it is so much more exciting to actually tell others all sorts of things and finding out that there are a lot of thoughts and things in common between two people. Which leads me to my next point...

#2 I'd like to get to know my readers. It's true! Blogging about certain topics should be feel like you are writing to someone you just met, each specific person; almost if you are writing to them by name. So they know you are writing for them, and you know that they are listening. Simply, blogging should be like a conversation between you and your readers, rather than an online-public announcement. I appreciate your stay, I really do! So stop on by, leave a comment, introduce yourself!

#3 Well who doesn't like a good love story? Another thing I enjoy reading about in blogs is how she (I'm using "she" since, I have only been exposed to blogs run by women. Plus, it is safe to say that women are more likely to share romantic/wedding interests, right?) met her husband. It just gives us single ladies something to dream for, right? But it is the story of unity that really is amazing and heart-warming and naturally B E A U T I F U L. On this blog you may read a lot of love, relationships, and romance because the "perfect" age to get married is fast approaching!



What are some reasons you started a blog? (I'd love to stop by and read your blog!)